Relax, most women cum like fucking crazy with a medium dick (and I’m gonna prove it to you)
You don’t have to read everything I’ve got to say here… but it does matter. In fact, if you don’t read it to the end, you’re just gonna keep holding on to that dumb insecurity. The question isn’t “does it matter or not,” but how much it actually matters. So breathe, read it slow, and follow the tips.
Why do we like big dicks?
Look, this is more of an idea you guys made up. Not every woman likes it or puts it first. A big, pretty, veiny cock, like the ones in porn, is hot to look at, fun to grab, suck, and sit on… but it hurts like hell if you’re not careful. You gotta be well-lubed, or it turns into straight-up suffering.
A big cock can kinda make up for a lack of skill because it fills you up a lot. And if the guy knows how to control the pace and depth, it can be great. But if he fucks bad, we end up taking over the sex just to get something good out of it. That’s when size helps compensate.
Another thing is, besides the visual, it lets you do any position without it slipping out all the time.
Okay, but what if my dick isn’t big? Women aren’t gonna like me?
So if you’re on the average-dick squad, pay attention to these tips I’m about to give.
1. What counts as “big”?
Big varies like crazy from woman to woman. Every woman is different, has a different pussy, different depth, different tastes. For some, 5.5 inches is already a monster that hurts. For others, 7 inches feels loose like a church bell. In the end it’s just about finding the right lock for your key.
To give you a technical idea: the average erect dick in Brazil, according to reliable scientific studies like the meta-analysis from the British Journal of Urology International with over 15,000 men and local Brazilian research, sits around 5 to 5.5 inches. The vast majority of Brazilian guys are between 4.7 and 6.3 inches. So average is the fucking norm. The overwhelming majority of women live, cum, and have a blast with dicks in that range. And one thing that won’t leave my head is why nobody called me to go around measuring guys’ dicks—I’d do the research and throw in a free blowjob!
2. A man isn’t just a dick
If I wanted a perfect dick—big, pretty, veiny, and flawless—I’d just buy a top-shelf rubber dildo: huge, skin-textured, with heating and vibration… and it would never go soft or cum before me. But the truth is, when we want to fuck, we don’t want just dick. We want the guy that comes with it.
Believe me: the dick is at most 20% of good sex. If stuffing the pussy with 7 ounces of meat was really that essential, then we could say lesbians don’t fuck… and look, they fuck like crazy and cum hard. Sex isn’t just penetration. If you think it is, sorry to break it to you, but you fuck bad. One of the things I love most, for example, is grinding on his dick or his thigh. I cum like crazy that way, and a lot of times it’s more intense and lasts longer than pure penetration.
Get better at eating pussy, learn how to touch your partner, how to caress her tits without making it feel like you’re honking a horn, understand that every woman is different and likes to be touched differently.
3. There’s no such thing as “foreplay”
Yeah, you read that right. I’m not crazy.
We’ve been bombarded forever with how important foreplay is before sex. But hold up: what if I don’t cum from penetration? What if I don’t want or can’t have penetration? Did I not really have sex? And what about lesbians? They don’t have sex then?
Sex starts way before the dick goes in. Sex starts with the kiss on the mouth. Hell, kissing is the only part of sex you can do in public without risking getting arrested. Get this once and for all: when you’re kissing her neck, sucking her tits, playing with her nipples, or fingering her pussy… you’re already fucking. So, my dude, stop putting all the performance pressure just on penetration. For a lot of women, penetration can be secondary or not even that important.
4. Hygiene and appearance
Women idealize. Everyone does. And in any fantasy or idealization, the guy shows up hot, smelling good, and well-groomed.
Now flip it: when a woman decides to fuck you, she usually gets ready like crazy. Does her hair, nails, shaves her pussy, pits, legs, upper lip, puts lotion all over, good deodorant, perfume, body splash, and a lot of times even a special scent on her intimate area. All that so she feels sexy and can sit on your dick with confidence.
And you? Think a quick rinse of your dick in the shower with your mom’s shampoo is enough? That washing your ass with whatever soap and running out is fine? Fuck no, it’s not.
Be presentable, man. Put in some effort. The worst thing is a guy showing up all good-looking, nice body, hot face… and when the clothes come off, you catch a whiff of old sweat, musty armpits, or worse, a dick that smells like strong cheese or sour piss. That kills the mood instantly. Literally. Zero out of ten, game over, and a lot of times there’s not even a second chance.
Hygiene isn’t being fussy—it’s respect, for her and for yourself. Good intimate hygiene prevents bad smells, infections, fungi, and even more serious shit like penile cancer, which is still pretty common in Brazil exactly because of poor hygiene.
Take a real shower before the date, don’t just wet your body. Wash your dick with neutral soap or one made for intimate areas with neutral pH. If you’re not circumcised, pull the foreskin back carefully and clean the head and the frenulum really well—that’s where dirt builds up. Wash your balls, groin, and ass too.
Use deodorant on your pits. Brush your teeth and floss—bad breath kills any vibe. Trim your fingernails and toenails; long or dirty nails hurt and are gross. Pick clean underwear, preferably cotton, and change every day—don’t wear the same old pairs for days on end. If you sweat a lot, consider an antiperspirant or neutral talc on your groin, nothing crazy. Cologne yes, but in moderation—don’t bathe in it.
Bottom line: she got all dolled up for you. The least you can do is show up clean, smelling good, and with the package ready to be enjoyed without disgust. Good hygiene doesn’t make your dick bigger, but it massively increases the chances she’ll want to do it again and recommend you to her friends.
5. Take care of your head
You might not have a porn-star dick, and I know society fucks with you hard because of that. Your buddies clown you, you scroll and see a bunch of women saying they only like big dicks, that 7 inches is the minimum… and it leaves you frustrated and insecure.
But stop being an idiot.
Those women you see online aren’t the women around you in real life. Most of them are just chasing drama, likes, and attention. Believe me: if I posted a pic today saying “only 8.5-inch dicks and up are good,” the comments, likes, and shares would flood in. That shit gets engagement—it doesn’t reflect what most women actually want.
It puts insane pressure on guys over something you literally can’t change. So drop that redpill bullshit and those internet influencers.
I’ve said it three times and I’ll say it again: every woman is different.
Stop treating your partner like she’s some gold-digger just because you saw a video claiming women only want big dicks and money. She might not be like that. In fact, most aren’t.
We women hear this crap nonstop too—that we have to be skinny, have a big ass, perfect tits, never age… and we swallow a ton of shit. It ends up showing up in bed: when your head isn’t right, the surrender disappears and the fuck becomes mechanical, with no real heat or pleasure.
At the end of the day, it’s way better to have a guy with 5 inches but with his head on straight—confident, attentive, affectionate, and who knows how to give pleasure—than some ripped 8-inch stud who’s an idiot, selfish, and bad in bed.
A good head beats size every single time.
6. It’s not just your dick we’re looking at
A nice bulge showing through your pants does catch attention, yeah. But you know what catches even more, and a lot of times way more?
Strong arms, worked legs, broad back, a firm ass… God, a defined chest… that shit really makes our minds wander.
But then you think: “Shit, I’ve got a small dick and I’m not even jacked. I’m fucked, right?”
No, man. You’re not fucked.
You don’t need a bodybuilder physique or a six-pack. What matters is taking care of your health and having a healthy body: no big gut or overhanging belly, good posture, not slouching and staring at the ground, and at least some muscle tone. That already makes a huge difference in attraction.
A big dick is nice to look at and can feel good in some situations, but there are way more important things that actually make a difference when a woman really wants you: the way you carry yourself, the confidence you give off, how you take care of your body and hygiene, and how you look at her and pay attention to her.
In the end, a guy with an average or even small dick, but with a healthy body, good posture, smelling good, and who knows how to treat a woman right… beats the shit out of a guy with a big dick who’s sloppy, insecure, or poorly groomed.
Attraction isn’t just what’s inside the underwear. It starts way before the clothes come off.